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My caregiver weight gain was never about not knowing how to exercise.

I have been an athlete for most of my life. I know how to move my body, lift weights, work up a sweat, and push myself when I need to.

Knowledge has never been the problem.

Life is.

I have been caring for my dad for six years. During this time, I’ve gained 30 pounds, lost those 30 pounds, gained 20 pounds back due to caregiver weight gain, and now I am working to lose the weight again.

Caregiver weight gain doesn’t get talked about nearly as much as it should. If you’re a caregiver watching the number on the scale creep up while everything else takes priority, I want you to know you’re not alone in that, and it’s not a reflection of your discipline or your worth.

For me, understanding my own caregiver weight gain has meant being honest about what caregiving actually costs — physically, mentally, and emotionally — instead of pretending it’s just about willpower.

As a caregiver, I have been particularly aware of how caregiver weight gain can sneak up on you when your focus is on others.

That sentence makes the process sound much simpler than it has actually been.

Caregiving can make your days unpredictable. You may plan to exercise, prepare a meal, or take an hour for yourself—and then something happens that requires your immediate attention.

Your plans get moved to the bottom of the list again.

This time, however, I am not approaching my caregiver fitness journey as punishment for gaining weight.

I am choosing to take care of myself again.

Table of Contents

1. The Pictures That Got Our Attention
2. How Caregiver Weight Gain Changed My Routine
3. Lesson 1: Knowing What to Do Is Not Enough
4. Lesson 2: A Picture Can Be a Starting Point
5. Lesson 3: Accountability Makes a Difference
6. Lesson 4: Home Workouts Still Count
7. Lesson 5: I Need a Flexible Caregiver Fitness Routine
8. Lesson 6: I Am Choosing Myself Again
9. The Fitness Equipment Helping Me Get Moving
10. The Full Plate Perspective
11. Frequently Asked Questions

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The Pictures That Got Our Attention

Recently, a couple of my girlfriends and I took some pictures together.

Actually, we took several pictures.

We changed positions, tried different angles, looked at the pictures, and came to the same conclusion: none of us liked them, and we agreed not to post them on social media.

Now, this was not about believing that we had to look perfect.

We were not trying to look 25 again, and we were not sitting around tearing ourselves apart…at least not that much.

The pictures simply got our attention.

They showed us that we had not been feeling or looking the way we wanted to. Instead of continuing to complain about the pictures, we decided to do something.

We started a 30-day plank challenge the very next day, challenging one another to do planks and work on our arms.

It was a simple decision, but it’s given me the push I needed.

It even motivated me to start going back to the gym; after all, I’m already paying for the membership, but this time I switched gyms because I could use a change of scenery.

How Caregiver Weight Gain Changed My Routine

Caregiving did not erase the athlete in me.

It buried her underneath responsibilities, interruptions, exhaustion, and a schedule that often belongs to everyone except me.

That is an important distinction.

I did not suddenly forget how to exercise. I did not stop understanding the importance of movement, strength training, or balanced meals.

I simply stopped having consistent control over my time.

As a caregiver, I cannot always disappear into the gym for two uninterrupted hours. I cannot assume that every morning will go according to plan.

Sometimes, by the time I have handled everything that needs my attention, working out is the last thing I feel like doing.

That is how a few missed workouts can become a few missed weeks.

That is also how your own needs can quietly become optional.

Lesson 1: Knowing What to Do Is Not Enough

People often discuss weight loss as though information is the only thing standing between someone and the results they want.

Eat this.

Do this workout.

Take these many steps.

Follow this schedule.

But knowing what to do and having the capacity to do it consistently are two different things.

Caregiver weight gain is not always caused by a lack of knowledge or motivation. Sometimes it happens because caregiving leaves very little time, energy, or mental space for your own health.

I already own plenty of exercise equipment. I have resistance bands, weights, a bike, and other things I can use at home.

I know how to put together a workout.

What I have struggled with is creating enough time and mental space to follow through when caregiving has already demanded so much from me.

That does not mean I am lazy.

It means I need a routine designed for the life I actually live—not the life someone on social media thinks I should have.

Lesson 2: A Picture Can Be a Starting Point

I could have looked at those pictures and used them as another reason to criticize myself.

I could have focused on every body part I wanted to change.

Instead, I decided to let the pictures become a starting point.

There is a difference between recognizing that you want to make changes and deciding that you must hate yourself until those changes happen.

I do not hate my body.

This body has carried me through six years of caregiving, stress, family responsibilities, health challenges, and life.

I am also learning to look at these changes with more grace instead of treating personal growth like punishment. I shared more about that process in Finally Seeing the New Me and what it means to appreciate the woman who survived while making room for the woman I am becoming. Working through caregiver weight gain also requires me to extend grace to myself while still being honest about the changes I want to make.

Still, appreciating what my body has carried does not mean I have to ignore what it needs now.

I need more movement.

I need to rebuild my strength. Increase my flexibility.

I need to take better care of the person doing all this caregiving.

Lesson 3: Accountability Makes a Difference

My experience with caregiver weight gain reminded me that getting back into fitness does not always have to begin with a complicated plan. The plank challenge with my girlfriends is helping to restore my competitive edge while making me accountable to others.

Sometimes it starts with a group text.

Sometimes it is one friend asking, “Did you do your planks today?”

Sometimes it is laughing because your arms are shaking while you try to hold yourself up for a few more seconds. The struggle is real, y’all!

That small amount of accountability is just what I need and makes working out feel less like another responsibility and more like something we are doing together.

It motivated me enough to return to the gym.

That matters because the hardest part is often getting started again. Once I started moving, I remembered how natural exercise feels to me.

The athlete was still there.

She just needed somebody to call her back into the game.

Lesson 4: Home Workouts Still Count

Going to the gym has given me another level of motivation, but I also know that I need options at home.

When I cannot make it to the gym, I can use my resistance bands.

Having several options at home makes it easier for me to address caregiver weight gain without depending on a perfectly organized schedule.

I can work on my arms with weights.

I can get on my bike.

I can walk indoors.

I can do planks, stretches, or a short strength-training routine without leaving the house.

A workout does not become worthless because it only lasted 15 or 20 minutes.

That kind of all-or-nothing thinking can make busy caregivers give up before they begin.

My goal is to stop dismissing the movement I can do because it does not look like the workout I originally planned.

A shorter workout is still a workout.

Movement at home still counts.

Starting over still counts.

Lesson 5: I Need a Flexible Caregiver Fitness Routine

A realistic caregiver fitness routine has to leave room for real life.

That flexibility is especially important when dealing with caregiver weight gain, because every caregiving day does not look the same.

I need choices instead of one rigid schedule.

On a day when I can get to the gym, I can complete a longer strength-training session.

On a busy day at home, I can use resistance bands or work on my arms.

When my energy is lower, I can walk indoors or ride my bike.

When the day has completely gotten away from me, I can still stretch or complete a few minutes of movement before bed.

The point is not to create excuses.

The point is to remove the excuse that says, “Since I cannot complete the entire workout, I might as well do nothing.”

Something is available for me to do no matter what kind of day I may be having.

I just have to stop believing that it only matters when it is perfect.

Lesson 6: I Am Choosing Myself Again

I am not trying to punish myself for gaining weight.

I am not trying to erase the last six years.

I am not pretending that caregiving has not affected my body, energy, schedule, or priorities.

Each day, I remind myself that addressing caregiver weight gain is a journey, not a sprint.

I am choosing myself again because my health matters too.

Yes, I want to lose the weight I regained.

I also want stronger arms, better endurance, more energy, and the confidence that comes from keeping promises to myself.

I want to feel good when I see myself in a picture.

Not because I owe anyone a certain body, but because I want my outside to reflect the strength I still feel on the inside.

This is not about chasing the person I was before caregiving.

It is about taking care of the woman I am now.

The Fitness Equipment Helping Me Get Moving

One advantage I have is access to exercise equipment at home.

I have collected plenty of it over the years, so I do not have to depend on the gym every time I want to move.

Here are a few types of equipment that can support a flexible home workout routine.

Resistance Bands

Resistance bands are easy to store and can be used for arm, leg, shoulder, and full-body exercises. I really like them for squats and other glute exercises.

I like having options that allow me to complete my workouts without setting up an entire home gym.

Shop the resistance bands I use or recommend >>>> Resistance Bands

Exercise Mat

A comfortable exercise mat can make planks, stretching, abdominal exercises, and floor workouts easier on your hands, knees, and back.

Shop my recommended exercise mat >>>> Exercise Mat

Dumbbells or Hand Weights

Weights allow me to work on my arms and continue rebuilding strength at home.

Choose a weight that works for your current fitness level and allows you to maintain control throughout each movement. I like this set because I can lift light and heavy depending on how I feel.

Shop the dumbbells or hand weights I recommend >>>> Hex Dumbbell Set w/ Storage Rack

Indoor Exercise Bike

My bike gives me another way to move when I need to stay close to home. It’s especially helpful because I had a total knee replacement and cycling helps to prevent my knee from tightening up.

I can ride while listening to music, watching television, or catching up on something I have been meaning to watch. Mine is just like the one below, and it helps to get the job done.

Shop an indoor exercise bike or pedal exerciser >>>> Foldable exercise bike

Supportive Walking Shoes

Walking is one of the simplest ways for me to add more movement to my day, whether I am walking outside, at the gym, or indoors.

A comfortable pair of supportive shoes makes a difference when I am trying to stay consistent. I have 2 pairs of the walking/running shoes below.

Shop the walking shoes I wear or recommend >>>> Nike Women’s Revolution 8

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The Full Plate Perspective

When your plate is full, your health can become the thing you keep pushing to the side.

You tell yourself you will get back to it when things calm down.

But caregiving does not always calm down.

There may never be a perfect week with no interruptions, no unexpected needs, and plenty of extra energy.

I am learning that I cannot wait for the perfect time to take care of myself.

I have to work with the time I have.

That might mean a full workout at the gym.

It might mean resistance bands in the living room.

It might mean a walk through the house, a few minutes on the bike, or a plank challenge with my girlfriends.

The method may change from day to day, but the message remains the same:

I still belong on my own list.

My health matters.

My strength matters.

And I do not have to choose between being a loving caregiver and caring for myself.

I can do both—even when neither one looks perfect.

Frequently Asked Questions About Caregiver Weight Gain

What causes caregiver weight gain?

For me, caregiver weight gain has been connected to an unpredictable schedule, interrupted routines, stress, limited personal time, inconsistent meals, and putting my own needs last.

It was not a lack of knowledge. It was the challenge of remaining consistent while managing my dad’s daily care.

How can a busy caregiver begin exercising again?

Start with an activity that is easy to access.

That may be walking, resistance-band exercises, riding an indoor bike, stretching, or completing a short strength-training routine at home.

Starting with 10 or 15 minutes can feel more manageable than waiting until you have time for a long workout.

What is a realistic caregiver fitness routine?

A realistic routine offers several options.

Create one plan for gym days, one for home workout days, and one for days when you only have a few minutes.

This allows you to adjust without abandoning movement completely.

Do short home workouts count?

Absolutely! They count for me.

A short workout keeps me connected to my goal and helps me maintain the habit of choosing myself.

It may not be the full workout I planned, but it is still better than not doing anything at all.

Am I trying to lose all the weight immediately?

No.

I want to lose the weight, but I am also focused on rebuilding my strength, improving my endurance, creating consistent habits, and feeling more like myself again.

This is not a race.

It is a return to caring for myself.

One Choice at a Time

My struggle with caregiver weight gain is personal, but I know I am not the only caregiver who has watched her own health move further down the priority list. My weight has gone up, down, and back up again.

That is part of my story, but it does not have to be the final chapter.

I am back in the gym.

I am strength training at home.

I am using my resistance bands, riding my bike, walking indoors, working on my arms, and accepting plank challenges from my girlfriends.

Most importantly, I am no longer waiting for caregiving to become easy before deciding that I deserve care too.

I am not starting from nothing.

I am starting from experience.

And this time, I am building a routine that respects both the caregiver I have become and the athlete I have always been.

Have caregiving or other responsibilities affected your health and fitness routine? Share what you are working on in the comments. We may be carrying different responsibilities, but none of us has to start over alone.

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